Serenity - medicine against everyday stress without side effects
Serenity is a state of sovereignty and freedom and overcoming sense of anxiety.
People who have mastered Serenity are not so easily disturbed, hardly panic and certainly not get upset about little things. Rather, their serenity gives them inner freedom and security so that they can deal with problems confidently and relaxed.
It is the attitude and ability to deal with difficult situations and not to lose your temper.
In addition to the typical triggers of life in the form of external attacks, there are a few other factors that can challenge your composure and ensure that all good resolutions for more inner calm are immediately thrown overboard.
A common problem: serenity is the exception. Most people are constantly in a mood that they are tensed up or unstrung up , get excited more than needed , debate, talk themselves into a rage, let themselves be pissed off and also freak out every now and then.
Constant tension is normal, especially at work, and is sometimes expected. It is difficult to be calm.
There are also other aspects that make it difficult for us to remain calm e.g. the feeling of loneliness, forlornness or the feeling to be alone - but also old and bad habits.
If you ask me or yourself - what are the steps I have to take? - Well you have already taken the first step on the way to more serenity: You know the problem and become more aware of the processes.
You don't have to react anymore, you can decide. Sorry - but now the disillusionment comes ... : That alone does not automatically make you a more relaxed person.
The trick is to call up knowledge in an acute and challenging situation. And it will not surprise you, true serenity does not show itself in a relaxed atmosphere, but in difficult situations.
Check your perception
What exactly happened? Is it really so bad? But above all: what are the real consequences and what are only imaginary ones? Often we lose our composure because we misjudge or misgauge.
Control what you think / say
Is it really an “enormous issue'', “huge problem”, “terrible disasters”, “brutal forecasts”, “insane developments”, or a “total meltdown” , “maximum credible accident”? Your labeling, your words, how you label things is and will make serenity difficult. There is a clear relationship between thought and reality - if you speak about a disaster and if you see something as a disaster it will or might become a disaster.
Find a / your balance
Serenity is easier if you escape the constant stress and seek a balance to the constant tension. Do sports, enjoy time with friends, pursue your hobbies. Anything that is fun and good for you helps you see things more calmly.
Set / Define priorities
Determine what is important and urgent. Not only for tasks and to-dos, but also for people and situations. Most of the things that upset us are nowhere near as important or bad. Don't let such little things take control of your composure.
Come to a / your own decisions
People who have mastered Serenity are not so easily disturbed, hardly panic and certainly not get upset about little things. Rather, their serenity gives them inner freedom and security so that they can deal with problems confidently and relaxed.
It is the attitude and ability to deal with difficult situations and not to lose your temper.
In addition to the typical triggers of life in the form of external attacks, there are a few other factors that can challenge your composure and ensure that all good resolutions for more inner calm are immediately thrown overboard.
A common problem: serenity is the exception. Most people are constantly in a mood that they are tensed up or unstrung up , get excited more than needed , debate, talk themselves into a rage, let themselves be pissed off and also freak out every now and then.
Constant tension is normal, especially at work, and is sometimes expected. It is difficult to be calm.
There are also other aspects that make it difficult for us to remain calm e.g. the feeling of loneliness, forlornness or the feeling to be alone - but also old and bad habits.
If you ask me or yourself - what are the steps I have to take? - Well you have already taken the first step on the way to more serenity: You know the problem and become more aware of the processes.
You don't have to react anymore, you can decide. Sorry - but now the disillusionment comes ... : That alone does not automatically make you a more relaxed person.
The trick is to call up knowledge in an acute and challenging situation. And it will not surprise you, true serenity does not show itself in a relaxed atmosphere, but in difficult situations.
Tips and hints
The following tips will hopefully help you not to lose your patience and to stay calm:Check your perception
What exactly happened? Is it really so bad? But above all: what are the real consequences and what are only imaginary ones? Often we lose our composure because we misjudge or misgauge.
Control what you think / say
Is it really an “enormous issue'', “huge problem”, “terrible disasters”, “brutal forecasts”, “insane developments”, or a “total meltdown” , “maximum credible accident”? Your labeling, your words, how you label things is and will make serenity difficult. There is a clear relationship between thought and reality - if you speak about a disaster and if you see something as a disaster it will or might become a disaster.
Find a / your balance
Serenity is easier if you escape the constant stress and seek a balance to the constant tension. Do sports, enjoy time with friends, pursue your hobbies. Anything that is fun and good for you helps you see things more calmly.
Set / Define priorities
Determine what is important and urgent. Not only for tasks and to-dos, but also for people and situations. Most of the things that upset us are nowhere near as important or bad. Don't let such little things take control of your composure.
Even if someone deliberately provokes or attacks you, how you react is always up to you. Remember: the choice is yours whether to stay calm and not to fly off the handle. Take a moment to avoid acting impulsively.
Say no
Everything becomes too much for you, you feel overwhelmed - then you say no. Knowing and maintaining your own limits is an important prerequisite for dealing more calmly with reactions.
Pull the emergency brake.
In psychology, this is called the “exit strategy”: Before you lose your composure, withdraw from the situation. This is a good strategy, especially in the case of impending escalations. This method helps to remain calm and to defuse dangerous situations. It also protects relationships from words and remarks that may later be regretted.
Take a deep breath
When you are about to burst with anger, take a deep breath and count to ten.
Analyze yourself
When you feel the anger overwhelms you, step aside and ask yourself what is pissing you off. Ultimately, the anger begins within you, the environment is only the trigger.
Button your lips - be silent
The point cannot be emphasized enough: as long as you are champing with rage, shut up. Don't talk yourself into a rage or fly into a fury, stay calm. It's easier to stay calm once you don't say anything.
Exchange with others
Consult a good friend and pour out your heart to them. Talking relieves stress and anger.
Physical activity
Physical activity breaks down stress hormones, allows you to cope with everyday problems more calmly and also promotes health. So take a walk around the block first and stamp your anger into the ground.
Relaxation exercises
Numerous relaxation exercises can help you feel more relaxed. Meditation, autogenous training or progressive muscle relaxation PMR are well-known examples. Try different exercises to see what works for you personally. Regular practice of such relaxation exercises will keep you calm in stressful situations.
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Everything becomes too much for you, you feel overwhelmed - then you say no. Knowing and maintaining your own limits is an important prerequisite for dealing more calmly with reactions.
Pull the emergency brake.
In psychology, this is called the “exit strategy”: Before you lose your composure, withdraw from the situation. This is a good strategy, especially in the case of impending escalations. This method helps to remain calm and to defuse dangerous situations. It also protects relationships from words and remarks that may later be regretted.
Emergency aids
You are in a situation and notice that you are just about losing your patience, burst with anger, something was the last straw … the following aids can immediately help you feel more relaxed:Take a deep breath
When you are about to burst with anger, take a deep breath and count to ten.
Analyze yourself
When you feel the anger overwhelms you, step aside and ask yourself what is pissing you off. Ultimately, the anger begins within you, the environment is only the trigger.
Button your lips - be silent
The point cannot be emphasized enough: as long as you are champing with rage, shut up. Don't talk yourself into a rage or fly into a fury, stay calm. It's easier to stay calm once you don't say anything.
Long term activities
The following activities are suitable to train calmness over the long term and to learn how to deal with difficult situations in a relaxed manner.Exchange with others
Consult a good friend and pour out your heart to them. Talking relieves stress and anger.
Physical activity
Physical activity breaks down stress hormones, allows you to cope with everyday problems more calmly and also promotes health. So take a walk around the block first and stamp your anger into the ground.
Relaxation exercises
Numerous relaxation exercises can help you feel more relaxed. Meditation, autogenous training or progressive muscle relaxation PMR are well-known examples. Try different exercises to see what works for you personally. Regular practice of such relaxation exercises will keep you calm in stressful situations.
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Long story short ...
Serenity is a medicine against everyday stress without side effects.And reminding on my articles before about 'Stoicism' and 'Design your life' ...
The creative part in each of us is able to see opportunities everywhere we look, but many people see only problems everywhere they look, but you need serenity, calmness and easy of mind.
The creative part in each of us is able to see opportunities everywhere we look, but many people see only problems everywhere they look, but you need serenity, calmness and easy of mind.
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