Mental Health - Widower Experience (WX)

Self-awareness starts and goes on with a continuous process and perception of yourself - including your personality, strengths, weaknesses, passion and more and your emotions- and this leads you to a knowledge about yourself, acquaintances and familiarity - referring to an objective and non-judgemental evaluation. Why me - why should you value self-awareness so much? Sometimes what we feel can fool us. Feelings and emotions are highly subjective. Without self-awareness, our emotions can lead us to false beliefs. When you know yourself well and you are able to judge yourself at least a little more objectively, it's much easier to break free from emotional bondage and challenges. If you deal with it in a more reflective way, you can deal with the ups and downs of life better because you understand them better - better understand what you want and what you want, should or must do next. Emotions are the essential part of life Emotions are an integral part of who we are, but they are no...

I do and we all should accept death as inevitable. I do not fear death. On the one hand that is likely due to my strong belief in an afterlife - I will meet my wife, all my dogs, our horses and cat and all nice people on the 'other side' - for me it is a small house at the Klondike. And on the other hand - I guess that the fear of death follows from the fear of life. A wo/man who lives fully, lived honesty to her/himself is prepared to pass away at any time - that's how I lived and live. So many people are so wrapped up in the material things in life that they frequently overlook the most important moments in their lives - and joy and happiness . Don’t be afraid to live life to the fullest because life is short and things might change ahead of schedule or quicker than one prefer or expect. Instead of living in the past or in regrets ( as I outlined a few days ago ), enjoy what is now. Allow yourself to be satisfied with what makes you happy. It is not a good idea to let oth...

My stoic mantra ... Go as far as you can. When you get there You will see how it goes on. Your path and purpose will become clear and become yours - when you begin to trust yourself. The path - your path is the destination. Live your life for you with self-awareness, trust und confidence You have to trust in yourself - trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, good in others ... whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life. When you look to the past, don't sit and dwell on your regrets. Instead, focus on the things you learned from each experience and how they may enrich your future. Use the past not as something to hold you back, but as a method for reaffirming the drive to move forward on your chosen path. Live your life for you and not to please expectations Social pressure is deceiving - we all become influenced without noticing it. Before we realize we lost control of our lives, we end up envying how other people li...

Your Life Is What You Make It -  Always remember that ... Everything in our lives are reflections of choices one has made. I believe that emotions, feelings and frustrations like anger, sadness and frustration are based on my / on ones own, fixable and manageable ways, methods and patterns of dealing with them - rather than the fault of others or responses to outside influences.  If you want a different result, make a different choice. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. Your answers lie inside of you. And yes I admit often even ones own answers might be covered up or very silent or we do not like to listen - they are there - there for you. And if you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise. Compromise aren't bad - but they are compromise - and sometimes they are OK - but not for your life at all. Only you can chang...

This article should not trying to make you have more positive thoughts or more rational thoughts - or at least not completely - perhaps partly - as that's how I do it as stoic. Even more I am trying to help you to have a different relationship to your thoughts, and your fears. Fear, anxiety and panic can severely affect life. This no question. And yes there might be and for sure a short-term relief is occuring when fears are avoided and fearful situations are prevented, avoided, or bypassed. However, avoidance will preserve and maintain the fear in the long term, and will further limiting life. The solution most often will be found in facing your fears. Fear is just a feeling - it is that easy - but as well - that challenging  Same as we can not turn on and off the feeling of love and mourning - we can not turn of the fear of something. But the moment we accept out fear and embrace it with compassion - the moment we can begin to create and build upon our own self-trust. The thing i...

If something makes you sad when it’s ends, it must’ve been pretty wonderful while it was happening.  If you're sad - if you're grieving - I like to tell you Be glad you could love Grateful that you could have felt loved. Thank you for so many good years Grateful for so much that you had. Thank you, my dear wife - thank you for having a good time together To be honest, yes we do have so many sad things in our world - but you should not see the world as sad place and not only the sadness. Everything passes, have to go and dies - let's see the big picture - the good things in life. I have recognized and see it that way ... I hope you can do it as well: I see and understand grief as good and OK - and the grief can stay. I'm thankful for everything that was - what we had - what I had ... Grief is always with you, Grief can stay and remain in present, ... ... it can stay like an old scar which hurts when it rains and 'sky is grey'. And while that perspective may be sc...

Self-determination, self-definition, autonomy is not only a community, public, social spirit or topic or only for society, but also for each and every one of us. Especially when it comes to going your own way - living your own life - realizing your own meaning in life. enjoying your and using your freedom. And what I like to emphasize is that the freedom I mean has nothing to do with not being aware of others, seeing others or even when I see it here or there - it has nothing to do with absence or non-recognition of authority or other, or even anarchy or the ruthless living out of all desires. Quite the contrary I have in mind- it has to do with responsible action as well as consideration and respect for ourselves and others. Freedom also challenges us to make the best of our circumstances, to choose from the multitude of possibilities to go our own meaningful path and to live your life. Even more it has something to do with building bricks, concrete for a stabile basement, wa...

The feeling of self-worth / the way you judge yourself, is built on / growing on your roots of ... confidence and awareness of yourself - the knowledge of your personality, your abilities and your goals as well as the conviction of your own actions trust in yourself - believing in yourself and your strengths acceptance of yourself - accepting your weaknesses and knowing that you are always good enough Everyone is born with these roots, but you have to work on them to make them stable and strong - it is up to you to care for these roots and yourself. And the recognition we receive from others - starting when we were children - affects how we feel about ourselves as adults. If you were laughed at because we missed certain goals or you were constantly picked last for the team, you may still think today that you are not good or get attention or not the way we like to get. A lack of respect, ridicule and distrust can damage feeling of self-worth and the way you judge yourself. As a result, ...

To understand others, it is absolutely essential and inevitable that you see and understand your true values. Self-awareness, self-understanding, self-acceptance, and self-respect are the vital foundations to develop these values and empathy for other people - It helps improve self-esteem, personality, confidence, and the various relationships people build with one another. Change begins from within, and self-respect plays a huge role in bringing such change. On the flip side, without these foundations, it is / it will be difficult to have honesty, confidence, and integrity. Many people have been criticizing themselves for years, and in almost each case - I can tell you - it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens! Self-belief is not self-centered. And too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are. We can only fight effectively for others if we already believe in ourselves. Believe in yourself! We should keep in m...

We simply cannot influence that we die - but we can eventually influence how we die. But what we can influence for sure is how we deal with it. I firmly believe that living with self-awareness means - above all - to pause for a moment from time to time - pause to think  and listening to what someone actually wants in life - what someone loves - what someone wants.  Everyone is individual - every life is individual. Everyone has their own definition of what is a fulfilled, good day - what is a fulfilled and good life - positive challenges, experiences, goals ... and especially other people and their own family who fulfill their life. I deeply believe that it is about listening to yourself - and asking ourselves again and again - what makes us happy, what is important or what does someone not want to regret. I wish everyone that they can follow their heart - perhaps you can make a difference here and there - perhaps you can plant a 'seed' for the benefit of others or even for hu...