Mental Health - Widower Experience (WX)

On my blog, I often write about the small and big things that affect our emotional balance. About moments that throw us off course  -  and those that lift us up, shape us, and stay with us. Today, I want to share a deeply personal experience with you. A story that begins with a song from 1985  -  and still resonates with me to this day. It shows how profoundly certain moments can impact us when we allow ourselves to feel them fully. And why mental well-being doesn’t just start with therapy or tools, but with a conscious attitude toward life itself. ( This time, I have to ask my German readers for forgiveness, as I need to write this article in English   -   sorry about that. ) Not long ago, I wrote about  The Breakfast Club  -  a film that had a big impact on me 40 years ago. A story about growing up, being different, being human. Today, I want to talk about a song from that same year:  “19” by Paul Hardcastle . The Impact of P...

Memories can be complex and elusive. They are greatly influenced by our emotions and are stored in pieces and fragments. This delicate nature of our memories is always apparent as our brain and memory make clear divisions when our perceptions or feelings about a situation change. This process and the brain's role in it may aid in future trauma treatment. Every day, we undergo numerous experiences, but only a few stick in our memories. Our brain selectively holds onto specific events because our capacity to remember is limited. Memories that stick often involve significant and emotional events, like a first time experience, birth, marriage, or even death. These events linger in our memory, vivid and alive, years later, while the mundane and the everyday, like a road trip to the grocery store or our most recent dinner, are quickly forgotten. Our brain assigns significance to these memories linked with strong emotions because once upon a time, it was a survival mechanism. Recalling ...

Dass Erinnerungen eine diffizile Sache sein können, zeigte sich immer wieder - in welchen Fragmenten, Schnipseln, und Zusammenhängen  wir Erinnerungen an ein Erlebnis abspeichern da haben unsere Emotionen und Seele ein erhebliches, verantwortlich Mass und Einfluss. Unser Gehirn und Gedächtnis zieht immer dann eine Trennlinie oder Grenze, separiert Erinnerungen, wenn sich die Wahrnehmung oder das Gefühle in einer oder für eine Situation verändert. Dieser Zusammenhang und Gehirnaktivität könnte künftig dabei helfen, Traumata in Zukunft besser zu behandeln. Erinnerungen und Emotionen Jeden Tag erleben wir dutzende verschiedene Situationen, doch längst nicht alle bleiben uns im Gedächtnis. Unser Gehirn beziehungsweise unser Erinnerungsvermögen ist nicht nur selektiv, segmentierend sondern auch begrenzt - unser Gehirn muss sich daher auf besonders relevante Geschehnisse konzentrieren. In der Regel, was wohl niemanden überraschen wird, sind dies Ereignisse, Erlebnisse, Sequenzen im Leben...