Mental Health - Widower Experience (WX)

I am pretty sure that you either heard, or you said to a friend, or that you already thought that all you needed was a few months to get over something traumatic. And believe me that you are not alone. Most of us have been there and believed the same thing before. After all, the saying that “time heals all wounds” is used by many people for good reason. And I can as well tell you that traumas, grieving, and what ever crossed you way - need time. Even time is for damn sure an important factor when it comes to healing. And it may take away some of the pain, sorrow, or other dark and painful emotions which you experienced and experience.  Even though there’s as I mentioned there is some truth in the phrase, I disliked it when I was in the acute stage of grief - and I still dislike it today- as time on its own is not a healer. Healing is not a straight road. What healing and your healing will look like, how long it will take, and what you will think and feel and do and experience alon...

My beloved wife ... My heart my mind is full of 'pictures', full of memories. Every day, every minute with you was a gift, wonderful and irreplaceable. When we talked I most often used the German nickname 'Schatz' - the English expression 'darling'  is not the right equivalent  -  as you were 'my precious'   ... valuable, unique, wonderful - my one and only - you meant the world to me.  Your eyes like the deep, blue sky and your smile like the rising of the sun for me.  When I first held you in my arms, I hoped that moment would last until the end of time, and now I'm standing here and starting to realize that fate only gave us little bit more than 2 decades. I remember all the songs we listened, the movies we saw, the books we read to each other ... Goodbye my love, goodbye because I know we will meet again.  Help me to find the strength to do the right thing, I love you to the end of my days and I know that you will then be waiting for me there ...