Mental Health - Widower Experience (WX)

Memories can be complex and elusive. They are greatly influenced by our emotions and are stored in pieces and fragments. This delicate nature of our memories is always apparent as our brain and memory make clear divisions when our perceptions or feelings about a situation change. This process and the brain's role in it may aid in future trauma treatment. Every day, we undergo numerous experiences, but only a few stick in our memories. Our brain selectively holds onto specific events because our capacity to remember is limited. Memories that stick often involve significant and emotional events, like a first time experience, birth, marriage, or even death. These events linger in our memory, vivid and alive, years later, while the mundane and the everyday, like a road trip to the grocery store or our most recent dinner, are quickly forgotten. Our brain assigns significance to these memories linked with strong emotions because once upon a time, it was a survival mechanism. Recalling ...

We all strive every day to appear strong and invulnerable in private life and business life. Society or community pressure us to do it - or we believe they expect that from us. In addition, we often hardly have enough time to process certain experiences appropriately, to understand what we have experienced, to assess damage, to resolve contradictions and to overcome frustration an disappointments. Catharsis is one psychological key to start the process - to find your path and go your way. Our emotions, however, might or will become into view / become obvious in chaotic ways along the way, perhaps in the form of tears of anger or sadness, but little by little they allow us to find the right words to process what we have experienced. Adrienne Maree Brown once said something which fits in this context - I think or better I like the quote: “Things are not getting worse. They are getting uncovered. We must hold each other tight and continue to pull back the veil.“  And as historical bac...