Mental Health - Widower Experience (WX)

Can you believe the year is already coming to a close? Time really flew by, didn't it?   The new year is such a great opportunity for fresh beginnings (though I’m a big fan of starting whenever you feel ready, not just on January 1st, haha). Still, there’s something undeniably *special* about kicking things off on the first day of the year. I’m sure you can relate. 5 Selfcare Ideas Thoughts to Kickstart the New Year 1. Savor Those Holiday Treats This isn’t the time to be obsessing over calories or denying yourself those festive cravings. Enjoy the delicious foods and drinks that come with the season! You don’t need to throw your health out the window, but let yourself indulge guilt-free. 2. Create Your Ultimate New Year Playlist Music and selfcare go hand in hand! When I need to unwind or recharge, music is my go-to. As we move into the new year, why not create a playlist that gets you pumped and ready to tackle your goals? It’s the perfect way to lift your spirits and motivat...

Nowadays we all forced - not only by the pandemic. The everyday life, each business is subject to a constantly, permanently faster, changing world. and we all often have more than one role - at home, in business, spare time ... even as I am no father or mother - and even this article will be of help for everyone - this time I like to emphasize mothers and care-givers (I took care on my wife for 11 years 24/7 ) - especially mothers and care-givers are needing short breaks for self-care even more - mothers take care on so much up from the first blink of the baby's eye. Mothers and care-givers are often under constant stress almost around the clock.  No matter what your job is - self-care is very important. So that you can do your job, so that you can be there for your family AND be there for yourself. We all know that we cannot take care of others or do our best if we don't take care of ourselves as well. Take care of your own needs and your power balance and listen to your...

My life changed since my wife died. And since then I wonder and explore ways to be happy alone and live a full life   Consequently , I felt and partly still feel that I have also lost my purpose and, certainly - if I like or not, I'm confused about what role I might play in the world going forward. For example, I am no longer a husband, but I still feel like one. Through my fog of grief, it was nearly impossible to envision a life without my wife by my side. So came the question: “What do I do now?” compounded by the inevitable one of: “Who am I now?” While I had to and one may have to figure out “what to do” rather quickly, figuring out the “who you are now” is usually a slow process. Consequently , I discovered the dynamics of old time friendships began to shift. I had the luck that only a few friends seemed to fall by the wayside – a few because they feel uncomfortable with the situation. Keep in mind that change is not a dirty word - each's life is full of changes! I...

During the last weeks I wrote articles about a few things one can do to practice self-care and otherwise look after your mental health amid the pandemic.  I think that kind of actionable advice can be helpful, as they helped myself, but sometimes even the simplest self-care tips, like making your bed or trying a new hobby, can feel like Herculean tasks. Somehow I often thought that if I’m really hard on myself, I’ll be less likely to make the same mistake again. But I discovered the admitting my failings does not need to come with commensurate self-criticism, however. Now I firmly believe: Self-criticism doesn’t work. It neither actually motivate myself nor any other person. Instead, self-criticism is associated with decreased motivation and future improvement. Self-compassion - being warm and supportive towards ourselves, and actively soothing ourselves - will help when live gives us a rough time. It leads to less anxiety and depression, greater peace of mind, and, importantly, it...

Sometimes you understand the worth of good days long after they are gone. What I learned in my life and much more in the reasoned years, and much more months - enjoy the moment. I am - You are - Everyone is experiencing chances, occasions, and opportunities each and every day, but do we see them is the point. To see them we must be open to all thoughts. And when opportunities of happiness occur, slow down. Give yourself permission to lighten up. - Smile and enjoy the moment! Some days I wish - I could go back in life or time. - NOT to change anything, BUT to feel a few things twice. Often it only takes a picture or one good song to bring back thousands of  memories. E.g. this song by Pink Floyd - it was one of the song my wife asked me to play during her funeral.

Serenity is a state of sovereignty and freedom and overcoming sense of anxiety. People who have mastered Serenity are not so easily disturbed, hardly panic and certainly not get upset about little things. Rather, their serenity gives them inner freedom and security so that they can deal with problems confidently and relaxed. It is the attitude and ability to deal with difficult situations and not to lose your temper. In addition to the typical triggers of life in the form of external attacks, there are a few other factors that can challenge your composure and ensure that all good resolutions for more inner calm are immediately thrown overboard. A common problem: serenity is the exception. Most people are constantly in a mood that they are tensed up or unstrung up , get excited more than needed , debate, talk themselves into a rage, let themselves be pissed off and also freak out every now and then. Constant tension is normal, especially at work, and is sometimes expected. It is ...