Mental Health - Widower Experience (WX)

Grief is a part of us from the death-day onward and we carry it with us as long as we live. That doesn't mean we're standing still - the grief will only accompany us from now on.  And it would be nice and great when the people around the griefer let them feel that way and just acknowledge it. With a smile and love. And please never forget: the grief stays with you. The grief takes different forms; it gets quieter and after a while it doesn't afflict, scare and put stress and pressure on us that much anymore. But grief doesn't go away anymore - it will stay with us - it stays with us as the good memories of living with our loved ones - who we had to let go.       

My beloved wife ... My heart my mind is full of 'pictures', full of memories. Every day, every minute with you was a gift, wonderful and irreplaceable. When we talked I most often used the German nickname 'Schatz' - the English expression 'darling'  is not the right equivalent  -  as you were 'my precious'   ... valuable, unique, wonderful - my one and only - you meant the world to me.  Your eyes like the deep, blue sky and your smile like the rising of the sun for me.  When I first held you in my arms, I hoped that moment would last until the end of time, and now I'm standing here and starting to realize that fate only gave us little bit more than 2 decades. I remember all the songs we listened, the movies we saw, the books we read to each other ... Goodbye my love, goodbye because I know we will meet again.  Help me to find the strength to do the right thing, I love you to the end of my days and I know that you will then be waiting for me there ...