Grief, like death, is a natural part of life. Coping with bereavement

Grief is grief - Full Stop !
The reasons for mourning are as manifold and diverse as the mourning itself.
A loved one has died. A lifelong dream has burst. Or a relationship has failed - and much else.
All of these crises are serious. They are not the fly in the ointment, an inconvenience, or unpleasantness in life. There are situations in life that shake our foundations. A time in life hat frightens us, makes us angry and also makes us grieve.

Feel sorrow for unspoken things. Mourning for lost opportunities. Mourning for a person who meant so much to you. Mourning is serious because we have to rearrange our circumstances. When a person is absent, they are absent - there is nothing to gloss over or to whitewash. I am happy that I never heard something like "Hey, it'll be fine" is neither appropriate nor helpful.

From my point of view, grief simply has its right to exist or in other words another valley in life we have to go through. Grief has and must have its time in life, its part of life. Loss is part of life.


Grief is highly individual. 

Grief takes place at its own pace. With their own individual and unique mechanisms.
It can neither be valued nor rated by outsiders. Grief cannot be forced or shortened and I would say ii is not comparable. Grief is a unique process.

The strain, the frantic effort of outsiders with those who grieve often leave them insecure, ashamed and helpless. Since grief is still too much of a taboo, we lack mechanisms to deal with it. I guess it will not surprise anybody that there is no such thing as a golden cut or rule for dealing with Mourning.

If you are at a loss for words, then you can say this. Often it helps just to sit together - take a walk together. One can also be overwhelmed, be speechless. One can embrace when comforting words do not want to appear. Quiet, be authentic, with a heart.

And even as mourners I felt / we often feel helpless because we notice the awkwardness of the environment.

We are allowed to express what is good for us. But we can also communicate if we don't want to hear something or if someone is about to cross a boundary and we feel pressured.
No one is able to feel the grief better than the one who is affected and concerned.

Mourning means pain, means suffering, means saying goodbye. Yes.
However, grieving also means accepting. Letting go of what is no longer. Let go, because it can go.
The process of mourning is therefore also a phase of reorientation. A time for reflection.
The question for me and everyone who is feeling sorrow is: What is really important in life?