Grief can only exist by Love

We can only grieve for something or someone  who we loved before.

Love can exist without grief - but  grief can only exist by love - but finally one will not exist without the other. Grief asks us to be kind, to ourselves and to others. It demands respect, mindfulness and awareness.

Everybody experiences loss, whether it's the loss of a loved one, the ending of a romantic relationship, or any sort of a serious setback in life. The process of dealing with that grief often involves mourning "rituals" that vary across different times and cultures. How ever you do such grief rituals - they will be comforting acts - if they mean something to the individual person. 

Such rituals reduce fears and give stability in a new reality. In order to ...

• process the loss of people
• to feel the closeness and connection with the deceased
• to express love and affection for the deceased

... acts of mourning are of elementary importance It is extremely important to allow these emotions, giving them time and space. 

By these rituals people realize the possibility and the ability of being able to go on living without the lost person.  Perceiving, realizing and perhaps visualizing death and the changed view and situation in an emotionally positive, because empathetic and mindful environment, allows the processing of grief to happen. This enables a positive transformation in the grieving process.

By the growing number and variety of burial forms and mourning rituals the search for orientation also grows. Empathy and mindfulness, trusting relationships, social and psychological skills are all the more in demand. In the unique and individual way of a funeral -  as well as burial manner and places, there are great opportunities for the appreciation of the farewell - as an event that honors the deceased, but also for a good and meaningful farewell for the relatives.

Perhaps as a related note this article: Mourning and Memorial Ceremony - As you like it